Ivorian Dating Lay Swinger A common situation we find among men who are regular porn users, is they have increasing difficulty becoming aroused by their spouses. Many men admit that pornography initially helped them get more excited during sex, but the longer they used porn, the more it had the opposite effect. To get aroused during sex, they had to fantasize with the images and scenarios they had viewed in pornography-like acting out a porn script. Some tried to get their spouse to imitate porn stars, because the "same old sex" just didn't produce the rush. While this is more than enough to seriously damage a relationship, it gets worse.
Like a drug addict, the porn user's brain habituates and no longer gets high on the fantasy images and kinky sex techniques that once turned him on. So, he seeks different images-more graphic, more variety, harder core, etc. He may try to manipulate his spouse into even more bizarre sex acts. Or, he may simply go through the basic physical motions, but any real intimacy and connection is missing. Eventually, for many porn users, sexual intimacy with a spouse becomes infrequent or abandoned altogether, replaced by the more stimulating rush of their porn drug.
The tragic irony in all of this is that while pornographers boast about pushing the envelope by introducing new, harder themes, what they don't reveal is that they must do this because their customers build up a tolerance to the content. Thus, over time, the porn user becomes "impotent" in two ways:
1. Getting aroused becomes increasingly difficult without continually altering the pornography diet. For many, arousal with a spouse becomes problematic or even near impossible. It's very telling when Internet porn sites are filled with ads for Viagra-type drugs to treat impotence, or "erectile dysfunction." This misleading term implies that these men have a problem with their genitals , but the problem is with a brain and nervous system continually habituating to a powerful drug-always needing more to get the same rush.
2. But erectile dysfunction is only one small part of the "male impotence" brought on by porn use. Far more debilitating is "intimacy impotence"-the increasing inability of the man to connect, bond and truly be "one" with his wife-to enjoy full intimacy which is physical, emotional and spiritual. Instead, he opts for "self-sex" in the company of cold, electronically reproduced fantasy images.
Like a drug addict, the porn user's brain habituates and no longer gets high on the fantasy images and kinky sex techniques that once turned him on. So, he seeks different images-more graphic, more variety, harder core, etc. He may try to manipulate his spouse into even more bizarre sex acts. Or, he may simply go through the basic physical motions, but any real intimacy and connection is missing. Eventually, for many porn users, sexual intimacy with a spouse becomes infrequent or abandoned altogether, replaced by the more stimulating rush of their porn drug.
The tragic irony in all of this is that while pornographers boast about pushing the envelope by introducing new, harder themes, what they don't reveal is that they must do this because their customers build up a tolerance to the content. Thus, over time, the porn user becomes "impotent" in two ways:
1. Getting aroused becomes increasingly difficult without continually altering the pornography diet. For many, arousal with a spouse becomes problematic or even near impossible. It's very telling when Internet porn sites are filled with ads for Viagra-type drugs to treat impotence, or "erectile dysfunction." This misleading term implies that these men have a problem with their genitals , but the problem is with a brain and nervous system continually habituating to a powerful drug-always needing more to get the same rush.
2. But erectile dysfunction is only one small part of the "male impotence" brought on by porn use. Far more debilitating is "intimacy impotence"-the increasing inability of the man to connect, bond and truly be "one" with his wife-to enjoy full intimacy which is physical, emotional and spiritual. Instead, he opts for "self-sex" in the company of cold, electronically reproduced fantasy images.
